Creating The Perfect Baby

Why not jump back in to our Blog with a controversial topic . . . the idea that our clients are trying to create the "perfect" baby. This idea saddens me for many reasons, but I will only tackle one reason today, and that is what it says about our clients. Unless you have experienced problems with infertility it is hard to imagine the great pain it brings to couples and individuals. There are many people out there who have long held onto the idea of having their own child and to find out that it may not be possible is devastating. Yes, adoption is a valid option for many, but I find nothing wrong with intended parents who are hoping to give birth and have children that look like them or share the same genetic makeup. With the great advances made with infertility treatments, it is now possible for many intended parents to have the families they may have previously thought impossible.

I think where some of the misunderstanding comes from is with the large amount of compensation offered to our donors. Just because the compensation is larger does not mean that the families we represent are looking to make a perfect baby. Yes, we do list a number of traits that the intended parents would like the donor to have. This is because, they are looking to find a donor they feel would "fit in" with their family makeup and perhaps share similar characteristics. Can these characteristics solely be determined by a donor's height or gpa? Absolutely not, and our clients know that. However, listing criteria that applies to the family is one way to start sorting through the possible candidates to find a donor match.

The bottom line is that our clients have gone through many emotional and medical struggles. They are looking to us to help personalize a process that at other agencies may be as impersonal as them flipping through a catalog to find a good match. Our clients spend the extra money to have the personal attention given to their search so that they can hopefully find the one donor who will feel right to them. In acknowledgement of the time and the effort spent on their search, they want to compensate their donors accordingly.

While many will disagree with the idea of paying a large compensation amount to a donor, please think twice before you criticize the intended parents. These are people who have been through great struggles and any child born to these intended parents will be loved and cherished. While utilizing an egg donor might not be a decision you would make, for many families, it is a welcome solution to a heartbreaking problem.

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